At least that’s what my father-in-law said. He’s proud of the authentic persian rug he gave us, and doesn’t dismay that I practice EC with Ada.
EC being elimination communication, or infant hygiene, or infant potty training. I wanted to write about this more than I have, but then again, I want to write about everything more than I have.
Quick synopsis for those who haven’t heard of it, EC is a way of taking care of your child’s elimination needs (pees and poos) without solely relying on diapers. It rejects the Western idea that babies have no control over their own bladders.
Rather, from birth, a baby can signal and tell her parents that she needs to go to the bathroom in a similar way as she tells them that she needs to eat, sleep, is hot or cold, or etc.
It’s really just about knowing your baby.
There are a lot of arts that have been lost in western style parenting… and you guys know I don’t mean this in a judgemental way to my fellow parents… but nighttime parenting, breastfeeding, babywearing and elimination communication… these are all things that I have discovered in my journey as a mother that partly came second nature because I relied on my heart and my head to tell me what was right, but then partly had to be learned from like-minded mamas because these arts have been lost to most people.
So that’s what EC is. It’s knowing your kid on a deeper level. If you don’t do EC you still know your kid. But just like with nursing a baby or not, a mother can become more in tune with less effort by doing the natural thing. A bottle feeding, diaper using mom can be very in tune with their child, but it just takes less effort to be in tune with them when you use these lost arts.
I feel pretty in tune and positively attached to Azita (I feel much of that came from toddler nursing), and she used diapers. But EC came pretty naturally to me since I gave Azi lots of nakey time at home and she potty trained naturally and with no pressure.
And that is a big part of EC. No pressure. Just like feeding and sleeping, some days it works well, some days it doesn’t, just let your kid be.
In China, at least from my EC reading, baby pee just isn’t a big deal. Sometimes misses happen. Clothes are changeable, humans are washable.
Either way, many moms use back up diapers, and just remove them when the child needs to pee, and then put the same one back on. This is what we do outside the home, but Ada is often diaperless at home. I do use a disposable at night, but I want to invest in a good cloth solution for night time and save even more money and resources.
I love that my children get progressively greener as my experiance as a mother grows.
The biggest thing, in all that rambling about being in tune with your kid, that EC has meant for me was that it unlocked the first piece of the puzzle to Ada’s food allergies. Simple. How can a kid have diaper rash who wears very few diapers?
How many poor little colicky kids have cried their nights away in pain until they outgrew their food allergy because this wisdom has been lost on us? There is a difference between diaper rash because of pee/poo being sealed against the skin in plastic and red irritation that shows the digestive system is upset.
So thank you, EC, or my life and my child’s would involve even more tummy-aches and crying than it does now.
All I have to do is look at her bottom to know we’ve ingested something that didn’t agree with her. I also know her patterns for using the bathroom. I know when they are off, therefore something inside her is off. She can’t speak yet and say, hey mama, my tummy hurts. But I have learned to pick up the clues and I wish so much that more mothers and babies had too.
Someone in the EC yahoo group said that for babies to cry and us to think its for no reason or that there is nothing we can do about it is against “good design”. I like that way of looking at it. Why would God or nature, whatever you believe, create babies that cry and release stress hormones and us mothers just be helpless about it?
Also EC has been freeing for me. Forgot to grab the extra diapers when I left the house? No biggie– I’ll cue her to go when we get to the store and the one she has on will stay clean! Gotta love it!