Another thing on my ever-thinking mind about the kind of women I want my girls to be has to do with make-up.
I realize they will be who they are and in the future I will have to let some things go, but I still feel the need to guide their perspective on this one.
It’s more about guiding their perspective than expecting them to hold fast to some issue, like Disney or makeup by saying “no, no it’s bad, don’t EVER do it!”
I wear make-up occassionally. As a child I always had a dislike for it, however. And as a teen I was always subconcious about wearing it. It probably didn’t help that I had an older sister always ready to tell me how terrible it looked when I put it on, and that I was doing it wrong.
So now as an adult, I might wear a little something when I cover an article or just when I feel like it, but I don’t use it on a daily basis. I’m not judging anyone who does, it’s just not something that became a habit of mine.
And also that helps me see others who seem to have to live with it and have it on to feel good about themselves and look at that sort of need as something I don’t want in my kids.
So obviously, when Azita asks my mother-in-law why she wears makeup, and she answers “So I can be pretty”, it’s yet another answer from another woman in my child’s life that annoys me.
It annoys me because this morning Azita climbed up the shelf (a separate little monkey issue entirely) while I was making breakfast and got my lipstick and put it on and told me that she had to wear it so she could be pretty.
“We don’t need makeup to be pretty baby, we are pretty without it,” I said.
“No, momma, we need it so our lips can be pretty,” she answered.
“Well, we wear it sometimes for fun, but we don’t have to have it to be pretty. We are good just the way we are,” I countered.
“No, momma, I need it so my lips are boosy-boosy.”
I’m not sure what that answer means. “Boose” means kiss in Persian, maybe that is something that her Grandma has told her.
Either way, it’ll be okay. I’m not stressed about it. But I’m going to continue to try to shape their mindsets that we, as women, do not need anything to feel good about ourselves physically. Honestly, Azita such a beautiful girl anyway, she’s got alot going for her. It’s not makeup that makes me get all twitchy, it’s if she thinks she “needs” it, and if she values physical looks, and wastes tons of time on physical looks, above other things.