This morning we went to the children’s garden that I’ve blogged about and done an article on. I’m glad it was open today.
Yesterday was one of those days where Ada got woken up from her nap early. She was kind of cranky yet ready to play yet ready to sleep.
Then Azita was ready to nap or at least have quiet time and Ada’s jumping up and down on the bedrail.
Then Azita’s bouncing all over the place and riling up Ada, and then Ada is overtired and ready to nurse and nap again.
Then Azita runs in because the show I put on to distract her while I put Ada to sleep is over, and Ada is up again.
So finally, at 3:30 or so, I throw in the towel and decide to take them to run an errand.
But when things get like that, and I am frustrated because Ada is too wired to sleep and too tired to let me accomplish any housework, I seem to have this drive to go to a store or run an errand.
That was fine and great with Azi, who loved car trips and shopping. But Ada doesn’t, and she’s also at that age where shopping provides endless things that she wants to grab and put in her mouth. She doesn’t want to be in her wrap (sad– you all know how much I love babywearing!) but she doesn’t want to be in the cart, either. And Azita used to love shopping but now always tells me she wants to stay at home.
And the biggest reason this is a bad habit is money. My decision to stay home with the kids means that me and Payman sometimes have a hard time fitting everything into our budget. It’s a sacrifice I willingly and happily make, but I just can’t run out to the store and buy a new cute thing for the house or treat at the healthfood store, or cute little boots for the baby or new markers for Azita or new shoes, or whatever it may be everytime the baby gets woken up from a nap and I’m tired of being at home.
I think a lot of people, myself included, get a little high from going to Target and buying something cute for the kids and maybe themselves. But its not a good habit for me. Why this draw to go buy things when I’m in a bad mood? Materialism? Boredom?
Well, I think materialism, as a means to try to make yourself happy, leads to boredom but that’s probably a different story.
Also, what effect does it have on the kids? I feel in a better mood but they are just as tired and cranky. Sometimes, they fall asleep on the way home and it ends up okay, but often not. We are all more frustrated.
So that is why I was glad it was Tuesday, the day the garden is open.
I’m getting better at finding positive outlets for us getting out of the house than shopping and spending money. Children’s garden is one of them– and when we leave the house because Azita is the tantrumy one, it has infinitely better effects on her mood and well-being, being out in nature, than shopping does.
But also I’ve tried to take them outside in our own yard more.
And I’ve rediscovered the library, good on colder or rainier days. Azita loves going there, just to get books or for the various scheduled activities.
Cathy, who runs the garden, told me the Waldorf philosophy is “There is no innapropriate weather just innappropriate clothing.”
I’ve always been a chicken when it comes to cold weather so this winter I’m going to work on that. The kids don’t mind the cold if it means they get to plat in the nice healthy air. We have so much to learn from our kids.