Maybe something is rubbing off on Azita.
After Ayyam-i-Ha passed, she kept asking me every morning if I had another present for her, and then when we went to get gifts for my sisters and mom, she kept telling me she wanted to buy presents for her.
I told her, “Sometimes you buy nice things for other people and you should have fun and be happy getting them something they’d like.”
She didn’t say much and asked for a present a few more times. She’ll be four soon, I know she’ll get there. Kids are, by nature, thoughtful about themselves. I just want to lay a good foundation.
So that night we ate at the Thai restaurant. It’s the only place in town I seem to be able to eat without Ada reacting to something.
Azita also loves, just loves, having quarters or coins in her pocket. Any time we leave the house with a jacket with pockets, she asks for some money.
As we are leaving, she walks up to a lady at another table and starts talking, and tries to give her a quarter. The lady said, “No honey that’s your quarter, you can keep it.”
And Azita said, “I have two. You can have one in case you need to pay for something.”
It was the sweetest thing.
Of course, the next day we were at a friend’s house who had a candy machine and a bowl of coins on her kitchen counter, which Azita pilfered through while I was talking and went to go try to get more candy.
I told her not to take money out of people’s houses without asking.
Kids are kind of— I don’t know how to say it. We tell them to share and share and they are so incredibly pure and they do. And then we try to teach them social rules and I understand if it doesn’t make sense! We tell them to share, but when out and about we tell them to leave that other person’s house, or purse, or toy, or hairclip or jewelry alone.
They have to learn personal space and boundaries, and the difference between that and how we expect them to share things at a playdate or house. But I love it. It’s so cute. The purity I mean. The giving and taking quarters without attaching any meaning to money. That’s the cute part.