Another opportunity for bargaining with the almost-4-year-old arises, inevitably.
And maybe we should say reasoning with, rather than bargaining, although that has its place without being the useless type of bribing/manipulating good behavior I was trying to get at yesterday.
I’m kind of cheap. So when I let Azita get Dora band-aids instead of the cheap “just plain normal ones”, as she calls them, I want them to last.
I think the band-aid makers must know this. Azita has found every reason to use a band-aid and studies her little arms a legs for the slightest bump.
Some parents make a big deal about this type of this and never let their kids have a band-aid they don’t need. Some don’t care and let them use a whole box at a time.
I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ve been known to let her have 5 in a day (of the old plain normal ones!) to appease her little desire to pretend she has a boo-boo and her ability to make it all better.
But these Dora ones, she’s just using them like stickers.
I’ve seen some parents make such a big deal about it, almost making it a control issue, that I think that’s kind of going overboard.
I proposed a compromise, which is just teaching her to bargain and reason anyway, that we use a Dora one, and then a plain one, and alternate so that all the Dora ones don’t get used up.
That was met with some serious protest.
In the end, I decided to just tell her that they are her band-aids and it is her choice to use them all up. But if she does, I don’t have money to immediately go and buy more, and she will have to use the box of plain ones first.
This was met with protest too, but I feel like I’m putting the ball in her court. Maybe she will learn the natural consequence of using up all of something you like, and having to wait to buy more.
I have no qualms about bringing money into it, either. She has to learn these things.
My mother-in-law says, “Oh no don’t tell her that” whenever I tell her the reason we can’t buy something is that we don’t have the money for it right now.
But I think it’s never too soon to teach them about these things.
She is growing up with more clothes and toys and in a house with heat and A/C and stocked with food— so really, what is the harm is teaching her that we still live on a budget. I think it’s important she appreciate what we have. And that she understand that she can choose to use something she likes up all at once, or save them up. As adults we make similar choices.
It’s just a box of band-aids. Maybe I over think everything.
But everything I do, and how I handle day to day life, she’s soaking it all up, right?