When people hear you are doing Elimination Communication, or raising a ‘diaper free’ baby when the baby is very young, like under a year, they are often amazed and very interested. Fascinated even, as you explain how you pay attention to little leg squirms after a nap or nursing/bottle session and the baby magically pees.
It seemed to me, after the baby turned 1 year old, like between 1 and 18 months, people’s reactions change to being intimidated, threatened, insecure… I don’t know, but less positive. More like you are early potty training and pushing your child into something that will harm them. You know, of course, that your baby and all babies are aware of when they need to eliminate waste and nothing is out of the ordinary.
Then, after 18 months, the praise starts again. The oh-my-goodness, she’s-not-even-two-yet, you are doing a great job, attitude. Some defensiveness. But we all know defensiveness comes from the other person’s insecurity, and nothing you did wrong, right? Like the mom that narrows her eyes and says, “Well that’s because you have girls” and turns on her heels. Eventhough you didn’t invite the converation. In fact, you never really mention it to people because it’s normal and routine for you. But people see the underwear and no diaper, and ask you. Then they get either positive or negative about it.
So anyway, the most sincerely interested inquiries I get about it are at Ada’s many doctor’s appointments.
I posted here about our first doctor/EC experiance and the ease of getting a pee sample from a 6-month-old, for us.
At the hospital a week and a half ago, the nurses were very intrigued and positive. I guess they are on their job though, so they aren’t going to snap at me about it!
But one clearly was uncomfortable without Ada having on a diaper, while the anesthesiologist and doctor didn’t care if she did the surgery naked. Sometimes I think some people have this idea that a child under two is just a missile waiting to launch pee everywhere. Like they genuinely don’t realize that kids– that babies control their bladders and don’t just leak pee all the time. Some kids do do that– but it’s a sign of a food intolerance.
So I told them it was fine to put a diaper on her after she was asleep but that she would get very aggravated if we tried before that. They did, and she returned to me with a pull-up. I did think that under the circumstances she wouldn’t be able to think about her bladder and keeping it on was fine. When I took the pull-up off, about 4 hours after she woke up from her after surgery nap, she had stayed dry the entire time.
Even in her cranky, miserableness, she sat and peed when I cued, at the Whole Foods. I was so proud of her! My little diaper-free girl! It just goes to show, once again, that when given the opportunity, kid’s will control their bladders too. After all, after surgery, or childbirth, or whatever, do adults just pee on themselves? I don’t think so. Not usually.